Daha \u00f6nce do\u011fru oldu\u011funa inand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir davran\u0131\u015f ile ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n sizi zorlad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir durum aras\u0131nda karars\u0131z ve s\u0131k\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f hissettiniz mi? S\u0131rf olay \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131n diye evet dedi\u011finiz oldu mu? Cevab\u0131n\u0131z evet ise, yaln\u0131z de\u011filsiniz ve bu yaz\u0131 ile gerekli yerlerde hay\u0131r diyerek \u00f6zc\u00fcl\u00fck bak\u0131\u015f a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131na y\u00f6nelebilirsiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Hay\u0131r kelimesini s\u0131k kullanmaman\u0131z\u0131n bir\u00e7ok nedeni olabilir: \u0130yi f\u0131rsatlar\u0131 ka\u00e7\u0131rma korkusu, birilerini k\u0131rma ya da hayal k\u0131r\u0131kl\u0131\u011f\u0131na u\u011fratma endi\u015fesi gibi. \u0130nsanlar, sosyal ili\u015fkilerle geli\u015fen bir t\u00fcrd\u00fcr ve ili\u015fkileri zedeleme kayg\u0131s\u0131 olduk\u00e7a yayg\u0131nd\u0131r. Ancak kararl\u0131 ve mant\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde hay\u0131r demek, s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 olan bir insan olarak size sayg\u0131 ve hayranl\u0131k kazand\u0131r\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Anti-\u00f6zc\u00fc d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnen insanlar s\u0131n\u0131rlar\u0131 hayat\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 zorla\u015ft\u0131ran ve s\u0131k\u0131c\u0131 hale getiren bir engel olarak g\u00f6rebilirler. Oysa \u00f6zc\u00fc insanlar, s\u0131n\u0131r koyman\u0131n sonunda sizi daha \u00f6zg\u00fcr ve mutlu yapaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilirler. Bu nedenle, gelen iste\u011fi ve vermeniz gereken karar\u0131, kar\u015f\u0131n\u0131zdaki ki\u015fiyle olan ili\u015fkinizden ay\u0131rmak hay\u0131r demenizi kolayla\u015ft\u0131r\u0131r. Bir se\u00e7ene\u011fi kabul etmemeniz sadece hay\u0131r diyerek olmaz. Reddetme sebebinizi nazik ancak mant\u0131kl\u0131 bir \u015fekilde a\u00e7\u0131klay\u0131p, bunun ili\u015fkinizde k\u0131sa vadeli bir etkisi olabilece\u011fini kabul etmek, \u00f6zc\u00fc insanlar\u0131n temel davran\u0131\u015f\u0131d\u0131r. Ayr\u0131ca kesin ve kararl\u0131 bir hay\u0131r demek, belirsiz ve oyalay\u0131c\u0131 bir cevaptan her zaman daha iyidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Cevab\u0131n\u0131z\u0131 kar\u015f\u0131 taraf\u0131 g\u00fcld\u00fcrecek bir \u015fekilde vermek, “Ben yapamam ama X ki\u015fisi yapabilir” gibi yard\u0131mc\u0131 alternatifler sunmak ve “Bunu yapamam ama ba\u015fka bir i\u015fi kabul edebilirim” gibi olumlu reddetme y\u00f6ntemleri, bu yolda size yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Cevab\u0131n\u0131zdan \u00f6nce durun ve kendinize d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnmeye zaman ay\u0131rarak \u00f6zc\u00fcl\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn en temel hareketini benimseyin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Herkese g\u00fczel bir g\u00fcn dilerim.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Daha \u00f6nce do\u011fru oldu\u011funa inand\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir davran\u0131\u015f ile ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n sizi zorlad\u0131\u011f\u0131 bir durum aras\u0131nda karars\u0131z ve s\u0131k\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f hissettiniz mi? S\u0131rf…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1043,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1042","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kisisel-gelisim-bilgi"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1042","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1042"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1042\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1044,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1042\/revisions\/1044"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1043"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1042"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1042"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1042"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}