Hayat\u0131n i\u00e7inde hepimiz zaman zaman farkl\u0131 insanlarla yollar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kesi\u015ftiriyoruz. Bu insanlar\u0131n baz\u0131lar\u0131 motive eder, baz\u0131lar\u0131 ilham verir, baz\u0131lar\u0131 da ne yaz\u0131k ki kendi i\u00e7 d\u00fcnyalar\u0131n\u0131n karanl\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 ba\u015fkalar\u0131na yans\u0131t\u0131r. \u00d6zellikle i\u015f ve sosyal hayatta kar\u015f\u0131m\u0131za \u00e7\u0131kan \u201ctak\u0131nt\u0131 sahipleri\u201d, \u00e7o\u011fu zaman kendi yetersizliklerinin g\u00f6lgesinde, ba\u015fkalar\u0131n\u0131n ba\u015far\u0131lar\u0131n\u0131 hedef al\u0131rlar. Asl\u0131nda mesele sizde de\u011fil; mesele onlar\u0131n ta\u015f\u0131yamad\u0131\u011f\u0131 y\u00fcklerdedir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130\u015f hayat\u0131nda ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olmak, herkesin kald\u0131rabilece\u011fi bir a\u011f\u0131rl\u0131k de\u011fildir. Baz\u0131 insanlar sorumluluk al\u0131r, \u00fcretir, yenilik getirir; baz\u0131lar\u0131 ise \u00fcretmek yerine \u00fcretenden rahats\u0131z olur. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc yapamad\u0131klar\u0131, yapmaya cesaret edemedikleri veya kapasite olarak eri\u015femedikleri her ba\u015far\u0131, onlarda bir \u201ctak\u0131nt\u0131\u201d olu\u015fturur. Bu tak\u0131nt\u0131 zamanla sessiz bir k\u0131skan\u00e7l\u0131\u011fa, ard\u0131ndan da ba\u015far\u0131n\u0131n arkas\u0131ndan konu\u015fmaya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr. \u0130\u015fini iyi yapan birinin en \u00e7ok ele\u015ftirildi\u011fi yer genellikle kendi \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131 ortamlard\u0131r. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ba\u015far\u0131l\u0131 olan ki\u015fi bir ayna gibi di\u011ferlerinin eksiklerini ortaya \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sosyal hayatta da durum farkl\u0131 de\u011fildir. \u0130nsan\u0131n i\u00e7indeki yetersizlik duygusu nerede olursa olsun d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya benzer \u015fekilde \u00e7\u0131kar. Biri hayat\u0131nda g\u00fczel \u015feyler ya\u015fad\u0131\u011f\u0131nda, sa\u011flam ili\u015fkiler kurdu\u011funda, d\u00fczenli bir hayat s\u00fcrd\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde veya toplum taraf\u0131ndan takdir edildi\u011finde, baz\u0131 ki\u015filer bunu sindiremez. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kendi i\u00e7 huzuru eksik olan, kendi eme\u011fine g\u00fcvenmeyen, kendi yolunu bulamayan insan, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n yolunu konu\u015fmaya ba\u015flar. Ba\u015far\u0131ya tak\u0131l\u0131r, mutlulu\u011fa tak\u0131l\u0131r, hatta bazen s\u0131rf siz oldu\u011funuz i\u00e7in bile tak\u0131l\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u0130nsanlar \u00fc\u00e7 temel sebeple bir ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n arkas\u0131ndan konu\u015fur:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1- Sizin seviyenize ula\u015famad\u0131klar\u0131nda.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Siz ilerledik\u00e7e, onlar yerinde sayd\u0131k\u00e7a i\u00e7lerinde bir rahats\u0131zl\u0131k b\u00fcy\u00fcr. Kendi \u00e7abalar\u0131yla y\u00fckselemedikleri seviyeye, ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131n \u00e7\u0131kmas\u0131 onlar\u0131 rahats\u0131z eder.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 2- Sizde olanlara sahip olamad\u0131klar\u0131nda.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Bu bazen ba\u015far\u0131d\u0131r, bazen huzur, bazen \u00e7evre, bazen de ki\u015fisel duru\u015f. Sahip olamad\u0131klar\u0131 \u015feyi y\u0131kmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak, elde etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmaktan daha kolayd\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n 3- Sizi taklit etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131p ba\u015faramad\u0131klar\u0131nda.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Hayatta bir\u00e7ok ki\u015fi ba\u015fkas\u0131n\u0131 \u00f6rnek al\u0131r ama bunu kendi tarz\u0131na d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015ft\u00fcremez. Taklit ettik\u00e7e eksik kal\u0131rlar. Eksik kald\u0131k\u00e7a da kendinde olmayan\u0131 k\u00f6t\u00fcleyerek rahatlamaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rlar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sonu\u00e7 olarak, tak\u0131nt\u0131 sahibi insanlar asl\u0131nda kendileriyle kavgal\u0131d\u0131r. Sizle u\u011fra\u015fmalar\u0131, sizinle ilgili konu\u015fmalar\u0131, sizi takip etmeleri bir rastlant\u0131 de\u011fil; kendi bo\u015fluklar\u0131ndan ta\u015f\u0131p d\u0131\u015far\u0131ya s\u0131zan bir i\u00e7 hesapla\u015fmad\u0131r. Siz i\u015finize odakland\u0131k\u00e7a, onlar konu\u015fur. Siz \u00fcretmeye devam ettik\u00e7e, onlar yorum yapar. Siz b\u00fcy\u00fcd\u00fck\u00e7e, onlar\u0131n tak\u0131nt\u0131s\u0131 da b\u00fcy\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ama unutmay\u0131n: Konu\u015fulan sizseniz, y\u00fcr\u00fcd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fcz yol do\u011frudur.<\/strong> \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc kimse, geride kalana de\u011fil; ileride olana tak\u0131l\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Sevgiyle kal\u0131n. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Hayat\u0131n i\u00e7inde hepimiz zaman zaman farkl\u0131 insanlarla yollar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 kesi\u015ftiriyoruz. Bu insanlar\u0131n baz\u0131lar\u0131 motive eder, baz\u0131lar\u0131 ilham verir, baz\u0131lar\u0131 da ne…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":2126,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6,11],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-2125","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-kisisel-gelisim-bilgi","category-ozgun-yazilar"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2125","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2125"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2125\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2127,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2125\/revisions\/2127"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/2126"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2125"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2125"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.kayaismail.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2125"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}