Hepimize g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmam\u0131z s\u00f6ylendi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc dur. Pes etme. Dik dur. Kendi ayaklar\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerinde dur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Peki hi\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fck m\u00fc?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bir insan ne zaman g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmaktan yorulur?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bazen g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmak bir erdemdir. Bazen de insan\u0131n kendisine kurdu\u011fu en sessiz tuzak\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n Tarih boyunca g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc insanlar\u0131n kazand\u0131\u011f\u0131 sava\u015flar\u0131, kurdu\u011fu d\u00fczenleri, ald\u0131\u011f\u0131 b\u00fcy\u00fck kararlar\u0131 anlatt\u0131k. Ama \u00e7o\u011fu zaman g\u00fcc\u00fcn onlardan neler g\u00f6t\u00fcrd\u00fc\u011f\u00fcn\u00fc konu\u015fmad\u0131k.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc insan\u0131n yorulmaya hakk\u0131 yokmu\u015f gibi davran\u0131yoruz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00dcz\u00fclmez. K\u0131r\u0131lmaz. Korkmaz. Yard\u0131m istemez. Her \u015feyi \u00e7\u00f6zer.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ve zamanla insan, g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcnmek i\u00e7in kendi duygular\u0131n\u0131 bile susturmaya ba\u015fl\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130\u015fte bedel tam burada ba\u015fl\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n S\u00fcrekli g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmak zorunda hisseden insan, bir s\u00fcre sonra kimsenin ona destek olmas\u0131na izin vermiyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Herkes ona yaslan\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ama o kime yaslanaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 bilemiyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Herkes ondan \u00e7\u00f6z\u00fcm bekliyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ama onun sorununu kimse sormuyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ve bazen g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc insanlar\u0131n en \u00e7ok duymak istedi\u011fi c\u00fcmle \u015fu oluyor:<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cBu kez sen u\u011fra\u015fma, ben hallederim.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc insanlar\u0131n en b\u00fcy\u00fck yaln\u0131zl\u0131\u011f\u0131, herkesin onlar\u0131n da yorulabilece\u011fini unutmas\u0131d\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Oysa g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmak hi\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015fmemek de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n D\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde yeniden kalkabilmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Her \u015feyi tek ba\u015f\u0131na yapmak de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ne zaman yard\u0131m istemen gerekti\u011fini bilmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Duygular\u0131n\u0131 bast\u0131rmak de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Onlar\u0131 kabul edip y\u00f6netebilmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ve belki de en \u00f6nemlisi, her sava\u015fa girmek de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Baz\u0131 sava\u015flar\u0131n sava\u015fmaya de\u011fmeyece\u011fini anlayabilmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Hayat bize dayanmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretiyor ama bazen b\u0131rakmay\u0131 \u00f6\u011fretmiyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Oysa baz\u0131 y\u00fckler b\u0131rak\u0131lmal\u0131.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Baz\u0131 ili\u015fkiler bitirilmeli.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Baz\u0131 m\u00fccadelelerden vazge\u00e7ilmeli.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Baz\u0131 insanlara \u201cHay\u0131r\u201d denilmeli.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc g\u00fcc\u00fcn fazlas\u0131 da insan\u0131 sertle\u015ftirebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n S\u00fcrekli kontrol etmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan biri, zamanla ak\u0131\u015fa g\u00fcvenemez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n S\u00fcrekli hakl\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan biri, \u00f6z\u00fcr dilemeyi unutabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n S\u00fcrekli g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc duran biri, yard\u0131m istemeyi zay\u0131fl\u0131k sanabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130\u015fte o noktada g\u00fc\u00e7, insan\u0131 koruyan bir z\u0131rh olmaktan \u00e7\u0131kar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u0130nsan\u0131n i\u00e7ine girdi\u011fi bir kafese d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015f\u00fcr.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Net konu\u015fay\u0131m;<\/p>\n\n\n\n Hayatta g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmak \u00f6nemli.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Ama her zaman g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc g\u00f6r\u00fcnmek zorunda de\u011filiz.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Bazen yorulabiliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bazen korkabiliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bazen a\u011flayabiliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bazen \u201cBilmiyorum.\u201d diyebiliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bazen yard\u0131m isteyebiliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bunlar\u0131n hi\u00e7biri bizi g\u00fc\u00e7s\u00fcz yapmaz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Belki de ger\u00e7ek g\u00fc\u00e7, kimseye muhta\u00e7 olmamak de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kime g\u00fcvenebilece\u011fini bilmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ger\u00e7ek g\u00fc\u00e7, her \u015feyi kontrol etmek de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kontrol edemeyece\u011fin \u015feyleri kabullenebilmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Ve ger\u00e7ek g\u00fc\u00e7, hi\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015fmemek de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n D\u00fc\u015ft\u00fc\u011f\u00fcnde kendini yeniden tan\u0131yabilmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc insan bazen g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc kaybetti\u011fi i\u00e7in de\u011fil,<\/p>\n\n\n\n g\u00fcc\u00fcn\u00fc y\u0131llarca yanl\u0131\u015f yerde kulland\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u00e7in yorulur.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Net konu\u015fay\u0131m:<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kendinizi g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmaya mecbur b\u0131rakmay\u0131n.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Her \u015feyi tek ba\u015f\u0131n\u0131za ta\u015f\u0131mak zorunda de\u011filsiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Bazen g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olman\u0131n en g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc hali,<\/p>\n\n\n\n \u201cBen de yoruldum.\u201d diyebilmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n Sevgiyle kal\u0131n.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Hepimize g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc olmam\u0131z s\u00f6ylendi. G\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc dur. Pes etme. Dik dur. Kendi ayaklar\u0131n\u0131n \u00fczerinde dur. Peki hi\u00e7 d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnd\u00fck m\u00fc? 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